Life Lessons

How to Achieve Your Goals in Life?

How to achieve goals in life?
Artwork by @antoniapang_ (Instagram)

What kind of mindset will help achieve goals in life?

If you want to achieve your goals in life, you must pay an enormous amount of attention and put an unwavering focus on the process rather than obsessing over the goal in the first place.

For example:

Imagine an apple tree.

If fetching an apple is your goal, will thinking or obsessing about it over and over again help you get one. It certainly won’t. Rather, you need to put soil, water, manure and seed together under sunlight.

None of which really looks like an apple, yet it miraculously works together to create one.

Nature works exactly like that. The process doesn’t resemble the goal, yet the process only works towards achieving the goal.

Once you decide on your goal, shift your attention to the process instead.

To bear fruit or, in other words, to achieve your goals, all you need to do is — simply take care of the process.

You don’t even have to think much about your goal. You’ll simply bear fruit as a natural consequence of that complex processor mechanism.

That’s why it is essential to be process-oriented rather than be goal-oriented.

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How to Approach and Fix Mental and Emotional Issues?

How to Approach and Fix Mental and Psychological Issues - artwork by @annaabolaart 
Beautiful artwork by @annaabolaart (Instagram)

Most people think of their minds as a separate thing from their body — because of the kind of education we have received, the mind is given to much importance leaving the other dimension untouched and uncharted.

The body has a trillion times more memory and intelligence than our minds combined.

If you start treating your mind also as a part of your body, you’ll start fixing your mental issues in the same manner as you tend to your physical issues.

It is really as simple as that.

For example:

When you get hurt accidentally, let’s say, a shoe bite on the back of your foot.

Do you apply ointment and band-aid as soon as possible or do you simply sit, whine, cry and question your own existence.

No, you don’t do any such rubbish.

Instead, you quickly tend to your wound … isn’t it?

If you take this approach when you have mental problems, you will be able to fix your emotional issues quite easily.

Treat your mind as a small part of your body, which it is. This will help you not take your thoughts and emotions dead seriously.

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How to Understand the Reality?

Wanderer Above the Sea of Fog by Caspar David Friedrich

Rather than dwelling into complex ideas and philosophies, there’s a rather simple approach to understanding reality.

There are basically two kinds of realities present in front of us: one is psychological and another is existential in nature.

The psychological reality is only happening within you — within the framework of your mind — and it has almost nothing to do with your outside situations, really. Most people are still trapped in their own psychological game or drama.

However, the existential reality is the only reality. No matter what you personally think or feel and irrespective of the kinds of opinions you may have — the sun will still rise and set, the moon will still rotate around the earth, rivers will still run, birds will still fly, fishes will still swim, dogs will wag their tails, trees will grow, flowers will blossom and die, seasons will come and go — the way they are programmed to, isn’t it?

Nature will not change according to your whims and fancies. It’s important that you get this now. Most people don’t get this even till the end of their lives.

We must seek out things that are existentially true rather than cooking up things in our head. No matter what you make up in your head, the reality will never change.

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How to Forgive People in Life?

How to Forgive People - Artwork by @jotakaillustration
Artwork by @jotakaillustration (Instagram)

How to Forgive People?

You don’t have to forgive people… like ever—if you simply don’t blame them in the first place. If you accept people the way they are, you won’t have to blame them and later try to forgive them. If they knew any better, they would do better. But they don’t. So they do whatever they know best.

However, if you still cannot forgive them, move on and go separate ways. If you cannot do that, learn to accept them the way they are. Make a conscious decision while you have time. If not today, you will have to choose either of the options sooner or later.

Maya Angelou brilliantly pours out saying:

“It’s one of the greatest gifts you can give, to forgive. Forgive everybody.