What kind of mindset will help achieve goals in life?
If you want to achieve your goals in life, you must pay an enormous amount of attention and put an unwavering focus on the process rather than obsessing over the goal in the first place.
Imagine an apple tree.
If fetching an apple is your goal, will thinking or obsessing about it over and over again help you get one. It certainly won’t. Rather, you need to put soil, water, manure and seed together under sunlight.
None of which really looks like an apple, yet it miraculously works together to create one.
Nature works exactly like that. The process doesn’t resemble the goal, yet the process only works towards achieving the goal.
Once you decide on your goal, shift your attention to the process instead.
To bear fruit or, in other words, to achieve your goals, all you need to do is — simply take care of the process.
You don’t even have to think much about your goal. You’ll simply bear fruit as a natural consequence of that complex processor mechanism.
That’s why it is essential to be process-oriented rather than be goal-oriented.
Most people think of their minds as a separate thing from their body — because of the kind of education we have received, the mind is given to much importance leaving the other dimension untouched and uncharted.
The body has a trillion times more memory and intelligence than our minds combined.
If you start treating your mind also as a part of your body, you’ll start fixing your mental issues in the same manner as you tend to your physical issues.
It is really as simple as that.
When you get hurt accidentally, let’s say, a shoe bite on the back of your foot.
Do you apply ointment and band-aid as soon as possible or do you simply sit, whine, cry and question your own existence.
No, you don’t do any such rubbish.
Instead, you quickly tend to your wound … isn’t it?
If you take this approach when you have mental problems, you will be able to fix your emotional issues quite easily.
Treat your mind as a small part of your body, which it is. This will help you not take your thoughts and emotions dead seriously.
Rather than dwelling into complex ideas and philosophies, there’s a rather simple approach to understanding reality.
There are basically two kinds of realities present in front of us: one is psychological and another is existential in nature.
The psychological reality is only happening within you — within the framework of your mind — and it has almost nothing to do with your outside situations, really. Most people are still trapped in their own psychological game or drama.
However, the existential reality is the only reality. No matter what you personally think or feel and irrespective of the kinds of opinions you may have — the sun will still rise and set, the moon will still rotate around the earth, rivers will still run, birds will still fly, fishes will still swim, dogs will wag their tails, trees will grow, flowers will blossom and die, seasons will come and go — the way they are programmed to, isn’t it?
Nature will not change according to your whims and fancies. It’s important that you get this now. Most people don’t get this even till the end of their lives.
We must seek out things that are existentially true rather than cooking up things in our head. No matter what you make up in your head, the reality will never change.
You don’t have to forgive people… like ever—if you simply don’t blame them in the first place. If you accept people the way they are, you won’t have to blame them and later try to forgive them. If they knew any better, they would do better. But they don’t. So they do whatever they know best.
However, if you still cannot forgive them, move on and go separate ways. If you cannot do that, learn to accept them the way they are. Make a conscious decision while you have time. If not today, you will have to choose either of the options sooner or later.
Maya Angelou brilliantly pours out saying:
“It’s one of the greatest gifts you can give, to forgive. Forgive everybody.
I want you to give this a thought every time someone directly or indirectly hurts your feelings and emotions. No matter how hard you try, the outside world will never exactly happen the way you want, but if you try hard enough, there is a tremendous possibility of you happening the way you want.
What horrible things people say is their own problem. It’s their own psychological drama. It’s got almost nothing to do with you. It reflects nothing but their fears and insecurities.
When people feel pleasant, they behave nicely, when they feel unpleasant, they behave nastily. That’s all there is.
If it is up to you, which it is, would you ever allow anybody to make you feel the way they want to make you feel? Isn’t that the worst form of slavery?
If you agree that it is so, would you give anybody the privilege to make you feel how they want to make you feel. Keep those privileges to yourself. Only you can take this call, nobody else will or can take this stand for you.
When most people think about the life, they’re actually considering the accessories of life such as — families, schools, colleges, jobs, offices, houses, cars, and so many other things — as life. These are not ‘life’ by itself but only accessories of life.
When you ask about life, you are essentially asking about all forms of life that are throbbing around us — people, animals, birds, fishes, insects, and so on and so forth. There are a plethora of things to learn about ‘life’ alone.
Once we understand the fundamental basics of life, understanding social, economic and other aspects of life becomes quite effortless. It becomes easy for us to navigate through life without much friction.
If you truly want to understand life:
“Look deep into nature, you will understand everything about it.
“The people who truly understand life are not the ones who study it. They’re the ones who enjoy it.” — by Marty Rubin
On July 14, 1930, a German-born theoretical physicist, Albert Einstein, invited the Indian philosopher and musician, Rabindranath Tagore, into his home located right on the outskirts of Berlin, Germany.
In Einstein and Tagore’s historic conversation, they share their perception, observation and understanding of the fundamental questions of human existence, exploring the aspects of truth and beauty, science and religion, philosophy, and consciousness.
Science and the Indian Tradition: When Einstein Met Tagore (public library) is a fascinating recount of an intellectually stimulating conversation between these two geniuses on the basic nature and truth of human existence.
Einstein Do you believe in the Divine as isolated from the world?
Tagore Not isolated. The infinite personality of Man comprehends the Universe. There cannot be anything that cannot be subsumed by the human personality, and this proves that the Truth of the Universe is human Truth.
I have taken a scientific fact to explain this — Matter is composed of protons and electrons, with gaps between them; but matter may seem to be solid. Similarly humanity is composed of individuals, yet they have their interconnection of human relationship, which gives living unity to man’s world. The entire universe is linked up with us in a similar manner, it is a human universe. I have pursued this thought through art, literature and the religious consciousness of man.
Einstein There are two different conceptions about the nature of the universe: (1) The world as a unity dependent on humanity. (2) The world as a reality independent of the human factor.
Tagore When our universe is in harmony with Man, the eternal, we know it as Truth, we feel it as beauty.
Einstein This is the purely human conception of the universe.
Tagore There can be no other conception. This world is a human world — the scientific view of it is also that of the scientific man. There is some standard of reason and enjoyment which gives it Truth, the standard of the Eternal Man whose experiences are through our experiences.
Einstein This is a realization of the human entity.
Tagore Yes, one eternal entity. We have to realize it through our emotions and activities. We realized the Supreme Man who has no individual limitations through our limitations. Science is concerned with that which is not confined to individuals; it is the impersonal human world of Truths. Religion realizes these Truths and links them up with our deeper needs; our individual consciousness of Truth gains universal significance. Religion applies values to Truth, and we know this Truth as good through our own harmony with it.
Einstein Truth, then, or Beauty is not independent of Man?
Einstein If there would be no human beings any more, the Apollo of Belvedere would no longer be beautiful.
Einstein I agree with regard to this conception of Beauty, but not with regard to Truth.
Tagore Why not? Truth is realized through man.
Einstein I cannot prove that my conception is right, but that is my religion.
Tagore Beauty is in the ideal of perfect harmony which is in the Universal Being; Truth the perfect comprehension of the Universal Mind. We individuals approach it through our own mistakes and blunders, through our accumulated experiences, through our illumined consciousness — how, otherwise, can we know Truth?
Einstein I cannot prove scientifically that Truth must be conceived as a Truth that is valid independent of humanity; but I believe it firmly. I believe, for instance, that the Pythagorean theorem in geometry states something that is approximately true, independent of the existence of man. Anyway, if there is a reality independent of man, there is also a Truth relative to this reality; and in the same way the negation of the first engenders a negation of the existence of the latter.
Tagore Truth, which is one with the Universal Being, must essentially be human, otherwise whatever we individuals realize as true can never be called truth – at least the Truth which is described as scientific and which only can be reached through the process of logic, in other words, by an organ of thoughts which is human. According to Indian Philosophy there is Brahman, the absolute Truth, which cannot be conceived by the isolation of the individual mind or described by words but can only be realized by completely merging the individual in its infinity. But such a Truth cannot belong to Science. The nature of Truth which we are discussing is an appearance – that is to say, what appears to be true to the human mind and therefore is human, and may be called maya or illusion.
Einstein So according to your conception, which may be the Indian conception, it is not the illusion of the individual, but of humanity as a whole.
Tagore The species also belongs to a unity, to humanity. Therefore the entire human mind realizes Truth; the Indian or the European mind meet in a common realization.
Einstein The word species is used in German for all human beings, as a matter of fact, even the apes and the frogs would belong to it.
Tagore In science we go through the discipline of eliminating the personal limitations of our individual minds and thus reach that comprehension of Truth which is in the mind of the Universal Man.
Einstein The problem begins whether Truth is independent of our consciousness.
Tagore What we call truth lies in the rational harmony between the subjective and objective aspects of reality, both of which belong to the super-personal man.
Einstein Even in our everyday life we feel compelled to ascribe a reality independent of man to the objects we use. We do this to connect the experiences of our senses in a reasonable way. For instance, if nobody is in this house, yet that table remains where it is.
Tagore Yes, it remains outside the individual mind, but not the universal mind. The table which I perceive is perceptible by the same kind of consciousness which I possess.
Einstein If nobody would be in the house the table would exist all the same — but this is already illegitimate from your point of view — because we cannot explain what it means that the table is there, independently of us.
Our natural point of view in regard to the existence of truth apart from humanity cannot be explained or proved, but it is a belief which nobody can lack — no primitive beings even. We attribute to Truth a super-human objectivity; it is indispensable for us, this reality which is independent of our existence and our experience and our mind — though we cannot say what it means.
Tagore Science has proved that the table as a solid object is an appearance and therefore that which the human mind perceives as a table would not exist if that mind were naught. At the same time it must be admitted that the fact, that the ultimate physical reality is nothing but a multitude of separate revolving centres of electric force, also belongs to the human mind.
In the apprehension of Truth there is an eternal conflict between the universal human mind and the same mind confined in the individual. The perpetual process of reconciliation is being carried on in our science, philosophy, in our ethics. In any case, if there be any Truth absolutely unrelated to humanity then for us it is absolutely non-existing.
It is not difficult to imagine a mind to which the sequence of things happens not in space but only in time like the sequence of notes in music. For such a mind such conception of reality is akin to the musical reality in which Pythagorean geometry can have no meaning. There is the reality of paper, infinitely different from the reality of literature. For the kind of mind possessed by the moth which eats that paper literature is absolutely non-existent, yet for Man’s mind literature has a greater value of Truth than the paper itself. In a similar manner if there be some Truth which has no sensuous or rational relation to the human mind, it will ever remain as nothing so long as we remain human beings.
Einstein Then I am more religious than you are!
Tagore My religion is in the reconciliation of the Super-personal Man, the universal human spirit, in my own individual being.
The Great Dictator, a historically significant film as per the modern critics, is a political satire comedy-drama film by comedian Charlie Chaplin, who wrote, directed and produced this iconic film — and was his first true sound film.
In 1997, it was selected as being “culturally, historically, or aesthetically significant” by the Library of Congress for preservation in the United States National Film Registry. Further, it was nominated for several Academy Awards such as Best Actor, Best Writing (Original Screenplay), Best Music (Original Score), etc.
In his 1964 autobiography, Chaplin claims to not have had made the film if he wasn’t aware of the extent of the horrors of the Nazi concentration camps at the time.
Charlie Chaplin’s most timeless message to all of humanity:
I’m sorry but I don’t want to be an emperor. That’s not my business. I don’t want to rule or conquer anyone. I should like to help everyone if possible; Jew, Gentile, black men, white. We all want to help one another. Human beings are like that. We want to live by each other’s happiness, not by each other’s misery. We don’t want to hate and despise one another. In this world there is room for everyone. And the good earth is rich and can provide for everyone. The way of life can be free and beautiful, but we have lost the way.
Greed has poisoned men’s souls; has barricaded the world with hate; has goose-stepped us into misery and bloodshed. We have developed speed, but we have shut ourselves in. Machinery that gives abundance has left us in want. Our knowledge as made us cynical; our cleverness, hard and unkind. We think too much and feel too little. More than machinery we need humanity. More than cleverness, we need kindness and gentleness. Without these qualities, life will be violent and all will be lost. The aeroplane and the radio have brought us closer together. The very nature of these inventions cries out for the goodness in man; cries out for universal brotherhood; for the unity of us all.
Even now my voice is reaching millions throughout the world, millions of despairing men, women, and little children, victims of a system that makes men torture and imprison innocent people. To those who can hear me, I say “Do not despair.” The misery that is now upon us is but the passing of greed, the bitterness of men who fear the way of human progress. The hate of men will pass, and dictators die, and the power they took from the people will return to the people. And so long as men die, liberty will never perish.
Soldiers! Don’t give yourselves to brutes, men who despise you and enslave you; who regiment your lives, tell you what to do, what to think and what to feel! Who drill you, diet you, treat you like cattle, use you as cannon fodder! Don’t give yourselves to these unnatural men—machine men with machine minds and machine hearts! You are not machines! You are not cattle! You are men! You have a love of humanity in your hearts! You don’t hate! Only the unloved hate; the unloved and the unnatural.
Soldiers! Don’t fight for slavery! Fight for liberty! In the seventeenth chapter of St. Luke, it’s written “the kingdom of God is within man”, not one man nor a group of men, but in all men! In you! You, the people, have the power, the power to create machines, the power to create happiness! You, the people, have the power to make this life free and beautiful, to make this life a wonderful adventure. Then in the name of democracy, let us use that power.
Let us all unite. Let us fight for a new world, a decent world that will give men a chance to work, that will give youth a future and old age a security. By the promise of these things, brutes have risen to power. But they lie! They do not fulfill their promise. They never will! Dictators free themselves but they enslave the people! Now let us fight to fulfill that promise! Let us fight to free the world! To do away with national barriers! To do away with greed, with hate and intolerance! Let us fight for a world of reason, a world where science and progress will lead to all men’s happiness.
Soldiers, in the name of democracy, let us all unite!